When I was elected by my fellow governors last summer as chair of the National Governors Association, I started a program we call Disagree Better: Healthy Conflict for Better Policy. It’s backed by philanthropies as diverse as the Pew Charitable Trusts, the Hewlett Foundation, the New Pluralists, the Packard Foundation, the Stand Together Trust (formerly known as the Charles Koch Institute), the Carnegie Corporation, and a number of corporate partners.
“Healthy conflict” is certainly not the traditional focus for a public-policy arm of the 55 state and territorial chief executives, but it’s critical for the problem-solving that governors want to lead.
I’m a conservative who believes in a strong national defense, low taxes, free trade, a sane immigration system, paying teachers more, and American energy dominance, among other priorities. But I’ve realized that progress on any of these goals is infinitely harder when each side thinks the other is the enemy. In our pluralistic society, conflict is essential, but the type of conflict matters to whether it yields welcome steps forward or endless bickering.
I also am deeply concerned about how America’s toxic political conflict erodes our leadership in the world. Over the past year, I’ve had conversations with two former secretaries of defense and numerous diplomats from the United States and our allies. They all tell me that polarization is undermining our ability to influence world events. As partisan animosity and political violence rise at home, we simply have less credibility modeling democracy and encouraging good behavior abroad.
How do we promote healthy conflict? Structural changes to our electoral system like ranked-choice voting and other innovations are worth considering but aren’t enough. Nor is it enough to encourage candidates for office to avoid negative campaigning or divisiveness out of a sense of civic responsibility. We have to demonstrate that it’s also good politics — that there is indeed an “exhausted majority” of Americans who want something different and will reward candidates and elected officials who treat their opponents respectfully. Studies by More in Common and the Polarization Research Lab, among many others, prove this idea.
Lots of well-meaning conservatives and liberals are skeptical of efforts focused on civility, bridge-building, or depolarization. My friends on the right greet my descriptions of Disagree Better with an eye-roll (sometimes rhetorically). They perceive it as a naive effort to “go along to get along,” yet one more example of a RINO (Republican in Name Only) preaching compromise as cover for capitulating to the left.
From the left, I most frequently hear that promoting healthy conflict unfairly expects people who feel marginalized to treat their political opponents with dignity. These advocates believe their power imbalance comes with moral permission to be loud and militant. Furthermore, they see someone concerned about surgeries for transgender youth, DEI initiatives on campus, or other progressive priorities as inherently bad or at least operating in bad faith.
Yet the concerns from both sides are genuine — and important to understand if we are to reduce partisan animosity.
To my friends on the right: I hear you. I, too, am leery of efforts that imply I must ignore my beliefs or suppress my concerns with progressive policies. Disagree Better is not that. My focus is on conflict but the right kind of conflict. I want to give people permission to express strong ideological views but without hatred and contempt.
To my friends on the left: I understand your concern, but you will never persuade anyone or open their mind by telling them they’re a terrible person.
Perhaps the most difficult part of practicing healthy conflict is distinguishing between policies or arguments that are bad faith and ones we believe are merely wrong.
Constitutional scholar Tara Leigh Grove beautifully describes the importance of pluralism and persuasion.
Society and our legal system can work better if there is a background assumption that most people are operating in good faith and from sincere belief, even if they hold beliefs that you don’t share. This idea will lead to compromise and mutual understanding. I think many people in our society don’t think that’s a good thing. It’s about my side should win, your side should lose. I see this on both the left and the right. A broader functioning society recognizes, Let me be understanding toward one political faction knowing that I may not always win elections, and I would like to be treated with some good faith and understanding when I lose.
So how do we promote this “assumption of good faith” toward the other side? In our effort, we are inviting governors and other public officials to prominently model the right kind of conflict. Twenty governors have recorded Disagree Better ads, with most of those featuring a Republican and a Democrat standing side by side, acknowledging their friendship despite their disagreements. We believe, based on Stanford’s Strengthening Democracy Challenge's study and loads of anecdotes, that the ads do in fact reduce partisan animosity.
Beyond these ads, we’re thrilled to support the thriving ecosystem of scholars and practitioners working to reduce partisan animosity through evidence-based tactics. Governors, through Disagree Better, are helping these organizations expand in their states, exposing high-school students to those who are different, teaching college students the right way to debate tough issues, helping faith communities navigate divisive matters, instructing activists on both sides how to persuade rather than vilify, and much more.
Former World Bank economist William Easterly has suggested that grand plans to end poverty usually accomplish nothing, while smart investments in solving discrete problems can be quite effective. He’s right, and his lesson should guide our efforts to tamp down partisan animosity and return America to solving problems. Lofty plans will be less effective than our collective efforts to build the institutions in our communities, police the rhetoric of our own side, engage others with curiosity rather than contempt, reward the elected officials who defend our preferred policies respectfully, and help Americans emphasize identities other than their political identities.
Human history is replete with tyranny and violence. It would be a needless tragedy if we let America — the greatest idea and experiment in history — obsess over our differences while ceding our global leadership. The world needs America to show that our messy form of democracy is still the best system to solve problems, produce human prosperity, and protect freedom.
Spencer Cox, a Republican, is governor of Utah and chair of the National Governors Association, the public-policy arm of the 55 state and territorial chief executives.